The Single Files

Justin Long

Age: 38

Profession: Sales Manager at Sonic Sense

Fave Celeb Crush: Sarah Silverman. I know it’s a weird one.

Length of Longest Relationship:?About five years. It wasn’t all decent.

Worst Dating Experience: There was the girl I went out with, we went back to her place, she proceeded to get literally pass-out drunk and passed out, and after she passed out her boyfriend came home. It really wasn’t good at all. He was nice about it – it apparently wasn’t the first time something like that had happened. He was pretty understanding – he was like, “I’m sorry man.” I just left. That’s probably the worst date I’ve ever been on.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: I guess it wasn’t a gift but I took a woman I was dating to the beach for the day when I was back on the East Coast. We took a day trip.

Super-Power Of Choice: I guess it’s generic but I’d have to say flight. That would solve an awful lot of problems.

Looking For In A Significant Other: Inspiration. I want to say stimulation, but that might come across wrong.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Creative
• Disorganized
• Literate

Marie Kaufman

Age: 43

Profession: High school English teacher at Skyline

Fave Celeb Crush: His name is Cillian Murphy. He plays the lead role on Peaky Blinders. He was also the Scarecrow in Batman. I have not seen his performance in the Batman films, but he’s magnificent in the Peaky Blinders. He’s quite the presence, and a very intense actor.

Length of Longest Relationship:?I’m divorced so that would be my marriage. It was eight years.

Worst Dating Experience: I have a son and I haven’t really been dating since my divorce, so I don’t have a good answer for that. It’s been quite some time since I’ve dated.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: Best gift I’ve received was from an old boyfriend who bought tickets to Phantom of the Opera. It was amazing. He gave the tickets early, because we went on Valentine’s Day. The show was phenomenal. The best gift I’ve given was a trip to a bed & breakfast, I think in Idaho Springs, to me ex-husband.

Super-Power Of Choice: Oh man. I would like to be able to impact emotion. There’s somebody in the X-Men who can do that. If somebody is in the room and their anger is elevated, they can de-excalate their feelings of anger. I could go around making world peace.

Looking For In A Significant Other: I’m a writer and so creativity is really important to me. I’m looking for someone who has a passion of the creative type, who participates in a creative endeavor, whatever the medium may be. Whether they paint or write or draw or make furniture. It doesn’t matter – something creative that they’re passionate about. I’m looking for someone who reads. It’s very hard to find someone who likes to talk books. I like to talk books, and I like to talk stories. Just someone who’s interesting, who can tell me about things I don’t know about.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Passionate
• Open-Minded
• Hungry For Knowledge

Tamara Shafer

Age: 48

Profession: Account Manager for a high tech water filtration company.

Fave Celeb Crush: Chris Hemsworth

Length of Longest Relationship:?Five years

Worst Dating Experience: I went on a date with this man, who had sent me a picture of him and he was young and had a full head of hair, but when I arrived he was much older than what he led me to believe. He used one of his college pictures and he was in his 50s and had put on some weight and lost some hair.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: Flowers and chocolates along with a dinner at Flagstaff House.

Super-Power Of Choice: Super strength. Could you imagine being able to pick up anything?

Looking For In A Significant Other: Ideally I want someone who is athletic, social and outdoorsy. They should be financially stable, educated, old fashioned and someone I can feel at ease with..

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Outgoing
• Creative
• Fun

Doug Harao

Age: 27

Profession: Chef at Sushi Zanmai

Fave Celeb Crush: Mila Kunis

Length of Longest Relationship:?Not that long, maybe a few months?

Worst Dating Experience: I was dating this woman for a while, and she always wanting to be treated like a princess. She always made me wait for her, and she didn’t have a car and I had to buy all the food. It was awful.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: I haven’t celebrated a lot of Valentine’s Days, but I’d have to say a box of chocolates it’s one of my best gifts.

Super-Power Of Choice: I want to fly. If I could fly I could go anywhere, anytime I wanted. If I wanted to be in Nebraska, I could just zoom over there.

Looking For In A Significant Other:Somebody who is confident in themself and passionate in what they do, it shows you that they have a drive and direction. Also, I’m not that tall so maybe a shorter girl who is athletic, and has mysterious eyes.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Enthusiastic
• Humerous
• Kind

Kary Schumpert

Age: 39

Profession: Environmental Educator

Fave Celeb Crush: John Cusack

Length of Longest Relationship:?Three years

Worst Dating Experience: I was going on a date and the man just didn’t show up. We had been texting and talking and then I sat and waited for a while, but he never showed.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: I haven’t celebrated a lot of Valentine’s Days, but I’d have to say a box of chocolates it’s one of my best gifts.

Super-Power Of Choice: The ability to make people get along.

Looking For In A Significant Other:Someone who can make me laugh and be kind. Communication is key as well.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Silly
• Kind
• Open

Sasha Barajas

Age: 35

Profession: Institute Reviews Coordinator & Boulder Yelp Ambassador

Fave Celeb Crush: Paul Rudd

Length of Longest Relationship:?Two years

Worst Dating Experience: I showed up for a date with this guy, and when I got there he told me that he didn’t know if I was going to come and that another woman was coming. It was a little awkward but the three of us just hung out with his friends at an open mic night.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: Some home cooked lasagna, salad and wine. The guy actually got sick a couple times throughout the day because he was so nervous.

Super-Power Of Choice: Invisibility, so I could see how people are when no one is around. For instance before a date I could go and see how the guy treats the wait staff.

Looking For In A Significant Other:Someone complimentary. Someone passionate about what they do, reliable and physically active as well.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Bubbly
• Optimistic
• Dependable

Jeannine Erlhoff

Age: Ohh, no. You never ask a woman how old she is.

Profession: Owner of Noble Treasures

Fave Celeb Crush: Johnny Depp. Who else? He’s everybody’s.

Length of Longest Relationship:?Ten years

Worst Dating Experience: Match.com, Craigslist, etc. Online dating in general. Never met anyone that I wanted to meet a 2nd time.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: I don’t ever remember ever getting any spectacular gifts. I got an iron once, but I think that was for my birthday. A single red rose is the best I can remember for Valentine’s Day.

Super-Power Of Choice: Jesus or Buddha. I’m not really religious, but I think understanding what the purpose of life is can help with decisions one makes.

Looking For In A Significant Other:Someone good looking who has a truck, can use power tools and who can cook.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Working
• Flexible
• Happy

Lesley Barnes

Age: 33

Profession: Boulder Start Up/Entrepreneur

Fave Celeb Crush: The third wheel in Brad Pitts and Angelina Jolie’s relationship.

Length of Longest Relationship:?Four years. I’m a serious monogamist.

Worst Dating Experience: I’ve been pretty lucky. I haven’t had a lot of bad dates. There was this guy who showed up in sweats and flip-flops after working out, and I was just thinking ‘really?’ Put in a little effort.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: Jewelry is always nice. Sometimes those last longer than the relationship, which is nice.

Super-Power Of Choice: I would say to fly, which is so typical, so I would add the ability to breath underwater as well. Flying above and below the sea.

Looking For In A Significant Other:A partner in crime. Someone I can have fun with, someone who will go hiking in the middle of the day, someone who will be their authentic self.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Loyal
• Goofy
• Honest

Geraldine Gollehon

Age: 53

Profession: Senior Teller at Elevations Credit Union

Fave Celeb Crush: George Clooney. He’s tall, dark and handsome.

Length of Longest Relationship:?26 years. I was married.

Worst Dating Experience: Finding out that they are still thinking of their college or high school girlfriend everyday, despite being in the 50s. That’s when I ended it.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: Flowers, and a night out on the town.
Super-Power Of Choice: ?I would like to be able to travel in time. Perfect.

Super-Power Of Choice: I would like to be able to travel in time. Perfect.

Looking For In A Significant Other:An emotionally available, tall, dark and handsome man. A stable family man. Somebody who’s fun – laughs at themselves and laughs at me.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Overflowing
• Loving
• Bubbly

Marcus If

Age: 48

Profession: Teacher/Writer

Fave Celeb Crush: Raquel Welch

Length of Longest Relationship:?Twelve years

Worst Dating Experience: Going on a date knowing that we were going to break up during the date. That was probably the worst date I’ve ever been on.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: I’ll keep this PG and say a massage.

Super-Power Of Choice: That’s tough, but I’m going to have to say flight. Telepathy was a close second, but flight would be my choice.

Looking For In A Significant Other:I tend to look to see if we have chemistry as well as intelligence, and a love and appreciation for the arts. She has to be artistic.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Unconventional
• Excitable
• Poetic

Geno Kennedy

Age: 60

Profession: Carpenter/Writer

Fave Celeb Crush: N/A

Length of Longest Relationship:?22 years

Worst Dating Experience: I met this gal online and I bought her a drink at a restaurant. She just started slamming drinks and it was all downhill from there.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: Breakfast in bed, I’m not big on candy.
Super-Power Of Choice: ?To fly. I really admire birds.

Super-Power Of Choice: To fly. I really admire birds.

Looking For In A Significant Other:I want a woman who is not done in life. I don’t care the age, but if they are done it won’t work. If they want to sit at home and knit and zone out on Oprah, that’s just not for me. I want someone who can drive 100 miles to a bar we’ve never been to just to have a beer.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Lover
• of
• Life

Nancy Dodds

Age: 50

Profession: Software Tester for Fanatics in Boulder, the largest online retailer of sportswear.

Fave Celeb Crush: Oh my gosh. I would say probably George Clooney. He’s got sex appeal and his smile is just killer, plus a sense of humor.

Length of Longest Relationship:?Seven years

Worst Dating Experience: Nothing really horrible. I can remember going out with somebody who did all the talking, about himself, all night. That didn’t last very long.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: A weekend trip to Taos for skiing was one of the best I got. That was nice.

Super-Power Of Choice: I would wings so that I could fly. I would want the wings, like a Victoria’s Secret model. I mean, hello? I would have a beautiful set of wings.

Looking For In A Significant Other:Wow. How much time do you have? I’m looking for sex appeal, charisma, physical attractiveness, but I’m a very healthy person so a healthy lifestyle, financial stability, a sense of humor and a desire for a monogamous, committed relationship and a deep connection. Chivalry is important too – he has to know how to treat a woman.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Ambitious
• Compassionate
• Growth-Oriented

Andy Cummings

Age: 48

Profession: President… of Cummings Hardwood Floors

Fave Celeb Crush: Jennifer Anniston

Length of Longest Relationship:?Nine years

Worst Dating Experience: I met this woman online and she sent me a picture. When I arrived I didn’t even recognize her. She told me the picture was from 10 years ago in Paris.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: A trip for two to Hawaii.

Super-Power Of Choice: I used to have this recurring dream when I was younger of myself flying about 50 feet about the ground, so I would have to say flying.

Looking For In A Significant Other:Beauty is important on the outside and inside. I need a woman who’s confident and has a sense of humor. Someone who’s spontaneous and stable.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Loyal
• Kind
• Caring

Catherine March

Age: 58

Profession: Artist/Owner of insurance agency called P&C Agency

Fave Celeb Crush: Hugh Jackman. I just like him, and he’s a stand-up guy. He’s got a good, long marriage and he’s pretty cute.

Length of Longest Relationship:?I was married for 15 years.

Worst Dating Experience: I dated a guy who had Tourette syndrome. He wouldn’t stop gesturing, then making funny noises during lunch. He was very nice and I actually gave him a second date just because I felt bad, but no. We met on Match.com and never connected, and then a couple of years later he finds me. He calls me one day, and he was stuttering a lot on the phone. I wanted to give him a break – I’m a sales person and I can talk to anybody. People are shy, so I didn’t think too much of that. He was a nice looking guy, but he told me he was a swimmer and, as we were walking to the table, he took a stroke. His arm did a crawl while walking towards the table. We were sitting down having lunch, and he wouldn’t make eye contact with me. He kept staring out of the window. All of a sudden, he made a noise and I asked him if he has Tourettes. He said, “No, I just gesture a lot.” It was a very strange lunch. He was a sweet man and he didn’t have a lot of friends. But then it was the worry of the pity date turning into the pity romance turning into the pity marriage. I don’t think so.

Best Gift Given/Received On Valentine’s Day: My least favorite holiday in the world. I truly can’t think of one. I hate the holiday. This year on Valentine’s Day, I’m having a diva dinner for my girlfriends, and we’re going to drink wine and eat chocolate, dress up and talk about how great we are.

Super-Power Of Choice: I think every woman would like to be able to read a man’s mind. I remember the Helen Hunt movie though. “Sex sex sex sex, I think I’m hungry, sex, sex, sex, How ‘bout them Broncos.”

Looking For In A Significant Other:A healthy man – mentally, physically, emotionally and financially. I’m tired of dating messy men. There are a lot of healthy men here in a physical sense, but there is an awful lot of emotionally unhealthy men here in my experience. I just need one.

Three Words to Describe Me:

• Effervescent
• Grounded
• Goofy

Meet the Expert

Antoinette Cabrall

Profession: Dating and Love Coach in the Boulder area.

What does your job as a dating and love coach entail? I take men and women through a seven-step process where I see where they can use support. When they follow the steps, then they can find an amazing relationship. My role is their guide, and to see where they can use support.

In which areas are they generally struggling in??A big one is self-esteem and confidence. So of them would say that they don’t think they’re good enough to be in relationships, or they have a lot of self-doubt. Maybe their self-esteem is lower because they just got out of a toxic divorce. For a man, maybe their ex-wife was always putting them down, telling them they aren’t good enough. They come to me a little bit emotionally wrecked and I help them build their confidence back up. They also come to me when they don’t understand what the opposite sex is thinking. I help guide them and tell them that we have different languages. Women want connection and communication, and men want to fix things and they just want us to be happy. Me being that guide and telling them to communicate with each other is really essential. For a guy, another one is being stuck in the friend zone. He’ll have a lot of women friends, but none of them want to take that to the next level. I help them get out of being stuck.

What are your tips to make people irresistible? One of them, obviously, is confidence. Raising their self-esteem, and honoring who they are. That they don’t need to buy someone’s love and woo her with gifts when what she really wants is a guy who really knows who he is. Another tip is going back to understanding what the opposite sex is thinking, and understanding that connection. If a man likes a woman who is feminine but confident, a businesswoman who is domineering isn’t going to be irresistible. What’s going to make her irresistible is if she can relax and be happy. He’ll then be more receptive to her, as opposed to saying what she did in business and talking about things that he doesn’t really care about. For him, if he pays attention to the connection part and paying to attention to what she’s talking about – looking in her eyes.

How many successes are you partially responsible for? Over a hundred. I have really good results. Some of them can be fairly quick, and some of them may need additional tools.

Do you have anything to add?Stop using games with each other. The more authentic you can be, the higher the quality of the relationship. I see people trying to play games with each other, but if you’re honest and you’re yourself, being positive while you’re dating, then you can get a lot more results than playing these dating games.

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